Ture About You

There are two schools of extreme thought people have when it comes to thinking about who we are.  One is that you are the center of the universe and you have to think of yourself first.  You and your happiness are all that matters and forget the rest of mankind.  The other is just as odd, it is that you are a worm, a nothing and you are just here to live till you die.  That it is wrong and immoral for you to think of yourself and you must suffer for others in order to have any value in this life at all.

                Whether it be a big ego or a sense of worthlessness, the wrong thinking about yourself is damaging to you and to those around you.  In Scouting, we strive to see that young people have a healthy and honest view of themselves and of other people.  You cannot see the world from a positive light unless you can first see yourself for who you were created to be.  Here are four things that we need to believe in ourselves in order to be a healthy and productive person.

“Life's battles don't always go to the stronger or faster man.  But sooner or later the man who wins is the man who thinks he can.”

– Vince Lombardi

(1913-1970)

Coach

1)  You have value

                Each and every one of us was put on this planet for a purpose.  God (who I believe has created us all) did not have a quota to fill, neither are you just some biological happening.  You have a purpose and that purpose is good and important.  You are here to make a difference which makes you of great value to the rest of the world.  Success-minded people not only see this but recognize that everyone else was created with a purpose and have great value.  Success-minded people respect and encourage that value in themselves and in others.

2)  God gave you a dream

                So just what is the purpose you were born for?  I believe that is what we call a dream.  In each of us, there is something we have always wanted to do and be.  It comes to us when we dream, when changes happen in our life or when we have time to daydream about what we would do if life was perfect.  You were meant to achieve that dream.  Embrace it and go after it with all that is in you.  After all, if the Creator of the universe gave you a dream, how can you fail?

3)  You can do this

                The whole world can believe in you but it makes little difference until you believe in you.  Know that you can achieve your dreams if you are willing to give it all you have, stay with it and make it happen.  You have to want the dream in order to make the dream come into reality.  Racecar driver, Mario Andretti said, "Desire is the key to motivation, but it's the determination and commitment to the unrelenting pursuit of your goal - a commitment to excellence - that will enable you to attain the success you seek."

4)  You were born to be great

                "You were born to win," said Zig Ziglar, "but to be a winner, you must plan to win, prepare to win, and expect to win."  Understand that you were not created to be mediocre or to just get by.  You were created to make a difference and to do the extraordinary.  You have no idea what wonderful things you can do until you step out and try.  Go for the gold in life and never settle for anything but excellence from yourself.

You matter!  You matter to the world and to yourself.  Remember to be your best, love God, have good manners, achieve the unknown and change your world.

Scouting Out of Uniform is a personal blog based on the lessons learned from Scouting that relate to personal development and success principles and is not an official site of The Boy Scouts of America. John Patrick Hickey does not represent or speak for the Scouting program; however, he does completely support and encourages Scouting for both young and old. John Patrick Hickey is an author, speaker, Personal Development Coach, and proud Scouter. To read more from John Patrick Hickey or to get his books, training and book him to speak to your church, business or group, visit our website at www.johnpatrickhickey.com.   © 2019 John Patrick Hickey

SOU 1949 You Made This

It's Good to Be a Friend

Pastor, radio host and educator, Charles Swindoll said, "I cannot even imagine where I would be today were it not for that handful of friends who have given me a heart full of joy. Let's face it, friends make life a lot more fun."  I must agree with this wholeheartedly.  Without the love and support of good friends, I don't know where I would be.  It has also been my desire to be such a friend to others and I have been blessed with some great examples.

                I have seen in Scouting that friendships are a vital part of the whole program. Boys like to have friends. Feeling a part of the group gives a Scout identity, a sense of belonging and a feeling of safety. The more friends a young person has the better they feel about themselves.

                Friendship is more than just the fact you know each other.  We see people every day, at work, school, church or where ever, and we greet each other and are pleasant, but that does not really make us friends.  Friends are those who are involved in our lives and we in theirs.  A friend is a person you talk with, laugh with, cry with, and believes in.  Nineteenth-century English Clergyman, Robert Hall, described a friend this way, "A friend should be one in whose understanding and virtue we can equally confide, and whose opinion we can value at once for its justness and its sincerity."  Let's look at four ways you can be this kind of a friend.

“There is nothing better than the encouragement of a good friend.”

– Katharine Hathaway

(1890-1942)

Author/Educator

1)  Friends believe in each other

                  It is one thing to agree with the dreams and ambitions of your friends and another to believe in those dreams and ambitions.  As a friend, believe in the dreams of those you care about.  Some may be a bit far out there and you may not fully understand, but they are not your dreams to understand.  Know that your friend has this dream and your place, as their friend, is not to critique or remodel it but to support and believe in them.

                Scouts are always ready to encourage each other to go to the next level. No matter if they are moving up in rank or taking a swimming test, they are there to encourage each other on and help make the process better for each one. A Scout believes in his brother Scout and honestly desires to see him succeed. In a Troop, when one succeeds, they all succeed.

2)  Friends share their dreams

                Just as you are willing to hear and believe in your friend’s dream, allow them to be a part of yours.  If the relationship is all one-sided, then it is not a healthy relationship in the first place.  One of the marks of a real friend is that you will make each other better people and achievers.  As a businessman, Henry Ford said, "My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me."

                In the process of earning the rank of Eagle Scout, the Scout must do what is called an Eagle project. This is not a simple act of service. It is truly a major project. One thing they all know is that the other Scouts in your Troop are there to help you. The Scout moving to Eagle rank may have to design and plan the project, but he knows he does not have to do it alone. He has brothers who believe in him and will happily do their best for him.

3)  Friends accept nothing less than excellence

                A true friend is one who knows that you have the potential to be excellent in all you do and will accept nothing less.  I have heard many times that a true friend accepts you just the way you are.  That is not at all true.  The waiter in the restaurant or the bank teller accepts you "just as you are".  They don't care what you do or how you live.  A true friend cares about you and will do all they can to keep you from doing things that will injure your character or reputation.  Friend will always work to help you become the very best you can be and not ignore your flaws but help you to overcome them.

                A Scout is brave. It takes courage to confront a friend when you know they are heading in the wrong direction. Scouts are quick to encourage and help each other along the way, but they will also be quick to say things are not as they should be. They know that to help a friend avoid trouble is to truly help a friend.

4)  Friends are encouragers

                "When you encourage others, you in the process are encouraged because you're making a commitment and difference in that person's life." Zig Ziglar said, "Encouragement really does make a difference."  There is no greater gift we can give to our friends, family or to ourselves than that of encouragement.  Sometimes it is as simple as a warm smile and a soft pat on the back, other times it means sitting quietly with a hurting friend just so they know you are there.  If you have one gift to give to your friends, let it be an encouragement. 

                I have found that Scouts often live in the real world. They do not all come from perfect homes and have their parents at each meeting cheering them on. They come from broken homes where they are facing many difficulties on their own. These Scouts can be some of the greatest encouragers of all. They know what their friends are facing and struggling with and they also know that together, they can overcome. No matter if their life is like a storybook or a tragedy, Scouts encourage and stick together. That is what friends do.

You matter!  You matter to the world and to yourself.  Remember to be your best, love God, have good manners, achieve the unknown and change your world.

Scouting Out of Uniform is a personal blog based on the lessons learned from Scouting that relate to personal development and success principles and is not an official site of The Boy Scouts of America. John Patrick Hickey does not represent or speak for the Scouting program; however, he does completely support and encourages Scouting for both young and old. John Patrick Hickey is an author, speaker, Personal Development Coach, and proud Scouter. To read more from John Patrick Hickey or to get his books, training and book him to speak to your church, business or group, visit our website at www.johnpatrickhickey.com.   © 2019 John Patrick Hickey

SOU 1948 Problems or Answers

SOU 1945 Now What

Why I Am I Doing This?

Is there anything more frustrating and difficult than when you are asked to do something and have no idea just what is expected.  I believe we should always give more to the job than what is expected of us, however, if we do not know the expectations, to begin with, how can we do more?  Scouts face this problem as well. They desire and promise to give their best to whatever they do. That is hard to fulfill when you are not clear on just what it is you are doing.

Scouting is a boy lead program. That means that young people are the ones giving out the tasks and setting their expectations. If an adult forgets to be clear on just what needs to be done, how do we expect young people to be clear? This lesson must be taught to the Scouts. Leadership is an important lesson in Scouting. Leadership, for Scouts, adults and everyone in between is not about position or title. Leadership is all about knowing how to lead others.

“A boy carries out suggestions more wholeheartedly when he understands their aim.”

– Sir Robert Baden-Powell

(1857-1941)

Founder of the Boy Scouts

Whether you are delegating a task or have a task delegated to you, here are four keys that will help the task to be done, done quickly, and done well.

Key #1.  What is it needs to be done?

                Be clear about just what the task that needs to be done is.  General terms might help you by telling others to get a job done, however, it does not help them.  Clarity will also help prevent someone from doing the wrong task.  Let's say that the request is that your staff provide better customer service.  What exactly needs to be done?  Is it that they need to be more pleasant and helpful?  Do they need to have better results in making the customer happy?  In what area do they need to improve and in what are they strong. 

                When working toward a new rank in Scouting, the Scout is told just what they need to do to achieve their goal. One of the helpful tools they have, and one of those in business can use as well, is the Scout Handbook. In the book (or manual if you prefer) is a clear description of what is expected and how to reach those expectations. In business, many companies have employee manuals that will clearly define the task that the worker must perform. If you do not have such a manual, you should create one.

Key #2.  Why are they doing it?

                Let me state clearly here, "Because I said so" is not an answer.  When people understand why they are doing a task they will not only do it better but will enjoy the process more.  When I worked for a major outdoor museum, one of the things that were expected of the staff, from the president down to the ticket takers, was to pick you all trash they saw on the ground always.  It was made clear to all, that by doing so we heightened the visitor's experience and we looked like the high-quality place we were.  Because we all knew this, it became a habit and everyone gladly took part.

                Scouts know that the reason they follow the Scout Oath and Law is that it will help them to be a better person and to become a successful person. Scouting is a way of life and to successfully live that life, you follow the Law and Oath.

Key #3.  How is it to be done?

                This has a fine line that a good leader does not wish to cross.  It is good to train and instruct people on how they are expected to do their jobs, however, you never want to micromanage your workers.  I believe that if you can help people understand the "why" a task needs to be done, they will find the best "how" to do it.  People work differently and you should allow them to do things their way, provided the result is what is expected of them.

                Where all Scouts follow the same Law and instruction from the handbook, Scouting recognizes that each Scout is their own person. Each has their own dreams and desires out of Scouting. Each has different strengths and weaknesses. Scouting is designed to help each Scout build on their strengths at a pace that works for them. Each is encouraged to be their best, not the best. Scouts are not one in a group but one of the group.

Key #4.  Who should be doing the job?

                A good worker will not appreciate going to do a job and find that someone else has already done it.  When you delegate a task, be sure to give it to one person or one team and make it clear to all whose responsibility it is.  It is also important that you give tasks to those whose strengths will do the best work.  Never set a person or a team up to fail, always be sure that you are getting the most from people because they have the most to give.

                In Scouting, there are many positions of responsibility to be filled. Scouts are given a position and shown how it is to be done. That duty is theirs for as long as they hold that position. The positions change so the Scout can see what leadership is like in different areas, however, whatever the position, it is theirs and they are held to the responsibility to do it.

You matter!  You matter to the world and to yourself.  Remember to be your best, love God, have good manners, achieve the unknown and change your world.

Scouting Out of Uniform is a personal blog based on the lessons learned from Scouting that relate to personal development and success principles and is not an official site of The Boy Scouts of America. John Patrick Hickey does not represent or speak for the Scouting program; however, he does completely support and encourages Scouting for both young and old. John Patrick Hickey is an author, speaker, Personal Development Coach, and proud Scouter. To read more from John Patrick Hickey or to get his books, training and book him to speak to your church, business or group, visit our website at www.johnpatrickhickey.com.   © 2019 John Patrick Hickey

SOU 1947 Making Change

PPos! Wrong Group

America's first president, George Washington, wisely said, "It is better to be alone than in bad company."  This is a principle that is often taught in Scouting.  Those who hang around with the wrong crowd will soon sink to their level - no matter how moral, strong and honest you are today.  I have talked to many a well behaved young man who thought he could influence his friends of poor character to be better people; in the end, he becomes more of them and not the other way around.

                When we talk about being with the right crowd, it is not a snobbish thing of thinking you are better than they are.  It is that you do have a better character, morals and a desire to behave in a proper manner.  The reality is, to be a strong person of good character you must be with other people of good character.  Those who keep company with people of poor character will soon be down to their level.

The Bible teaches us in 1 Corinthians15:33: “Do not be misled: bad company corrupts good character.” It is one of those principles of life that never fails to be true. Scouts are not told they can only associate with other Scouts. However, they are encouraged to be wise in their choice of friends. If you want to be a person of good character, then hang around with people who also want to be of good character. You will strengthen each other every time.  

“95% of people never succeed because they're following the wrong group.”

– Earl Nightingale

(1921-1989)

 Author/Radio Broadcaster

Here are four groups of people you want to avoid on your journey to a great life.

Group #1.  Avoid negative people

                Those who are negative, angry and defeated all the time have an uncontrollable desire to bring all around them down as well.  The old saying, "Misery loves company" is very true.  If you have been around a negative person you know this reality.  No matter who good you feel, they have a reason for you to feel bad.  When you are excited about a victory or achievement, they tear it down and make you feel like a failure.  They are like vampires that suck the life out of you. 

                The Scout Law teaches that a Scout is cheerful. That means they are positive in the attitude and behavior. It is hard, if not impossible, to be cheerful when you have some discouraging, negative force on your back all the time. The best way to fight this is to do your best to avoid it altogether.

                You do not have to reject the negative person in your life (sometimes they are family members) but you do have to control them.  Do not go to such people for advice or guidance.  Seek out the positive people in your life to support and guide you.  Love the negative person, but keep them at a guarded distance.

Group #2.  Avoid unethical people

                You may have come across such a person at work, church, school or even at home.  These are the ones who see no problem in lying, cheating, or being dishonest to get ahead.  They can make it look like a small thing and you really are not doing anything too wrong, but you do know better.  In the end, they will be caught in some way and they never go down alone.  They will toss you over the board as fast as they can.  Remember, if a person cannot be trusted by others, they should not be trusted by you.

                A Scout is trustworthy. That means you can be trusted to be honest, truthful and you are dependable. That is a big responsibility for anyone. The truth is, when you are trustworthy you will advance to places the dishonest person can only dream of. You will also be free to live your life without the fear of the consequences of your actions. That in itself is a great thing to have.

                These people need you to take a stand and directly tell them they are wrong and you will not be part of their unethical behavior - that includes keeping silent about it as well.  Remember the words of Martin Luther, "You are not only responsible for what you say, but also for what you don't say."  Seek out the people at work and other places who are honest, trustworthy and show good character.

Group #3.  Avoid immoral people

                Here is where it can get dicey for some.  I will not explain what it means to be a moral person, you are all success-minded people and understand this.  However, we all have friends or family that are living immoral lives and yet are good, honest, hardworking people.  So, what do you do?  You need to make it clear what you believe and why.  Then, go on with life and work as you should.  You cannot change another person; nor should you try.  Your example may be what they need to desire change in their life, but you also need to not be a part of their life as well.

                A Scout is clean. That does not mean you wash behind your ears. It means you are clean in your thoughts and actions as well. Scouts are smart enough to know that the old, “everyone is doing it”, or “If it feels good it must be okay” is just foolishness. You make your own choices and you are not a slave to culture, friends, or even your own body. A Scout is not just clean, he keeps himself clean.

                When it comes to those who are openly and constantly immoral, these you must not associate with at all.  Don't be deceived into thinking that you can be an example to them and help them change.  The best example you can be is to stand firm on what is good and what is evil and have nothing to do with evil.

Group #4.  Avoid lazy people

                Out of all the groups of people, these are the ones who can cause the most damage.  Lazy people have no goals but to get all they can from everyone else for as long as they can.  They are the parasites of humanity.  As a success-minded person, you have nothing in common with such people and need to remove them from your life.

                A Scout is helpful. A Scout gets things done. They know that there is no time like the present. I mean, there is no time but the present. Scouts do not put off for later what needs to be done right now. Even the unpleasant jobs of life are faced with the “get it done” attitude. Scouts may have faults and are not perfect, but one thing a Scout is not is lazy.

                Laziness is a disease that can be very contagious.  It starts by putting things off until tomorrow and in time will rob you of your hopes, dreams and leave you broken and useless.  The best cure for laziness is that of commitment and hard work.  As Italian dancer, Bruno Tonioli said, "In reality, nobody gets successful in America by being lazy."

You matter!  You matter to the world and to yourself.  Remember to be your best, love God, have good manners, achieve the unknown and change your world.

Scouting Out of Uniform is a personal blog based on the lessons learned from Scouting that relate to personal development and success principles and is not an official site of The Boy Scouts of America. John Patrick Hickey does not represent or speak for the Scouting program; however, he does completely support and encourages Scouting for both young and old. John Patrick Hickey is an author, speaker, Personal Development Coach, and proud Scouter. To read more from John Patrick Hickey or to get his books, training and book him to speak to your church, business or group, visit our website at www.johnpatrickhickey.com.   © 2019 John Patrick Hickey

SOU 1946 Don't Complain Learn

Being Loyal

In the Scout Handbook, you will find the second element of the Scout Law: "A Scout is Loyal.  A Scout is loyal to those whom loyalty is due." The this I have discovered is that this principle is easier for young people to follow than for adults. Scouts find friendships important and they easily assume that their friends, their fellow Scouts will be loyal to them, therefore, they tend to be loyal back. 

Loyalty can be a sticky thing for adults. For one, we do not trust people the way that the young can. Some of that is from experiences of being hurt or betrayed, and some are – to be really honest – that we know what scoundrels we are and therefore we assume others are too. Simply put, loyalty is the ability to trust, depend on and be open to others. It is not just what others owe us, but what can offer to them as well. Loyalty is always of more value when it is given to us than when others give it to us.

This does not mean we practice what is called blind loyalty.  I have often heard that loyalty is given to all in authority or all in power. We have a responsibility to be loyal to our employer, our government or our church.  That is not at all true.  Loyalty is always earned and never demanded.  It is given and not taken.  Loyalty comes from three main areas, beliefs, values, and purposes.

“Loyalty earned is a beautiful thing, but loyalty demanded is toxic.”

– Samuel Chand

Author

1)  Loyalty comes from shared beliefs

                Everything we do and fight for is the things we believe to be true.  We are loyal to those who share our belief because we know that they are fighting for the same causes we find important.  When we are asked to stand, fight for and defend things that we do not believe in, we become weak and ineffective.  Likewise, when we are following a leader who stands for the things we believe in, we become strong, committed and loyal to the end.

                This explains why Scouts tend to be so loyal to each other. The Scout Law and the Scout Oath are a belief system that holds us together as a group. Scouts are walking the same path. Yes, they are pursuing their own dreams and have their own destiny to discover, but they all share the same belief system and that belief system is a powerful force for good.

2)  Loyalty comes from shared values

                The success-minded person will not be loyal to someone who is not honest, of poor character or untrustworthy.  These are some of the values that make the success-minded person who they are.  Many have been asked to do things that are dishonest, bend the rules or tell a white lie, but have left their job or position because to betray their values is a crime greater than any they can accept.

                Scout too face this pressure from non-scouting friends. They are the same as any other young person. They face the same temptations and distractions as anyone else. Scouts must take a stand when they are asked to compromise what they know is right and true. Many times, they have to say no, even to good friends. It takes courage to be a Scout.

3)  Loyalty comes from shared purposes

                It is hard if not impossible to be loyal to someone or something that does not share your purpose.  If you want to see a person of character stand strong, give them a purpose they can believe in and stand up for.  Take it away and you will have no commitment at all.

                As we have said many times, Scouting is not an activity it is a way of life. Scouts follow the purpose of the Scout Law, now and in the years to come. Once a Scout, always a Scout. Once a person of integrity, you are always a person of integrity. Loyalty is the best when it is loyalty to ourselves and to what we know is right and good.

You matter!  You matter to the world and to yourself.  Remember to be your best, love God, have good manners, achieve the unknown and change your world.

Scouting Out of Uniform is a personal blog based on the lessons learned from Scouting that relate to personal development and success principles and is not an official site of The Boy Scouts of America. John Patrick Hickey does not represent or speak for the Scouting program; however, he does completely support and encourages Scouting for both young and old. John Patrick Hickey is an author, speaker, Personal Development Coach, and proud Scouter. To read more from John Patrick Hickey or to get his books, training and book him to speak to your church, business or group, visit our website at www.johnpatrickhickey.com.   © 2019 John Patrick Hickey

SOU 1945 Now What

SOU 1944 Learning By the Campfire

SOU 1943 Summer Camp

SOU 1941 Never Too Old

Winners

"Everyone is a winner.  There are no losers here." a teacher in a Jr. High School tells her students.  For some odd reason, we have begun to think that it is not only hurtful for a child to lose but hurtful for them to win as well.  In an Op-Ed from the New York Time titled, Losing Is Good For You, by Ashley Merryman (Sept. 24, 2013) she wrote, " By age 4 or 5, children aren’t fooled by all the trophies. They are surprisingly accurate in identifying who excels and who struggles. Those who are outperformed know it and give up, while those who do well feel cheated when they aren’t recognized for their accomplishments. They, too, may give up."  After all, if there are no winners why even try?

                The truth is there are winners and losers in many areas of life.  Winning does not make you better than everyone else, nor does losing make you less.  Winning means that you can do a task, have a skill or perform a sport better than those you compete against.  All winners know, there is always someone who is better at what you do than you are.  That is why winners work at winning. 

In Scouting, winners are rewarded for their work. Whether it is achieving a rank, earning a merit badge or coming in first in a race, winners are always recognized. At the same time, Scouts do not criticize or shame the loser. Those who did not win are encouraged to learn from the winner how to improve. The goal is always to make those who did not win to become the winner in the future.

Where our current system fails young people is that they do not challenge them to be better or to give more. Not only do the losers feel they are less but the adults think so too. If you think for a moment that children and young people believe there are no losers or that everyone is a winner, you are being very foolish. The goal must never be to help children to be comfortable being less than the best but to help them believe and work at being the best.

There are four myths that have been created in our culture about winners and winning.

“Practice does not make perfect - but it does make winners.”

– Unknown

MYTH #1 THEY WIN BECAUSE THEY CHEAT

                I will not say that some who win have not cheated to do so, but I will say that those who cheat are not winners.  Real winners win because they are good at what they do.  To be a winner you must prepare to win and that takes a lot of hard work.  Winners practice, commit their time and stay focused on what they must do.  Winning does not just happen, it takes work.

                In Scouting, you learn that you are expected to do your best. Not be the best, but do your best. Not everyone will excel at everything, but everyone can be their best at what they do. Sometimes, that may include being the best. That is good and should be rewarded. However, Scouts know that being the best at something does not make you better as a person than anyone else. Scouts encourage all to do their best and with that comes the fulfillment and pride of knowing that you are not just one of a pack of mediocre people. You are a Scout, and that is something to be proud of.

MYTH #2 THEY ARE SELFISH

                To think that having a desire to win a prize or title is selfish is foolish.  Of course, winners want the prize, that is why they are willing to pay the price to win.  Olympic athletes spend years working out every day for hours a day.  They do not do this so they can have the satisfaction of competing.  They want to win.  Not just win, but win the gold.  The same is true in every area of life.  You work hard to win, not to say you were in the game.  Anyone can compete, but only those who pay the price can win.

                Scouts learn that if they want to move forward they will have to do the work. Not every Scout makes Eagle. Only about 5% of those in Boys Scouts achieve the rank of Eagle Scout. Eagle is not an easy rank to achieve. It takes dedication, hard work and persistence to become an Eagle Scout, but for those who are willing to pay the price, the prize is there. No one, no matter how bad they may feel about it, is given the rank of Eagle. If you want it, you must earn it. No shortcuts, no give away on excuses. That is what makes an Eagle Scout.

MYTH #3 THEY MAKE OTHERS LOSE

                Time for some rational and solid thinking.  If one person wins it has nothing to do with the others who lose.  Winning means they were better than their competition.  Losing means you were not as good at the event as the winner.  Losing is not a bad thing nor is it uncommon.  In a race of 20 people, only one win and 19 do not.  The great thing about not winning is that you learn to try harder, practice more and not make the same mistakes twice.  The great thing about winning is that you now must be even better because you know that all those who did not win this time will be better next time.  If you want to win again, you must be better than your last win.

                Scouts are quick to share with each other what they have learned about winning. If there is an award or rank they have received, they are there to help those other Scout working toward that award or rank know what they must do and the best way to do it. The mark of a true winner is they are always ready to help others become winners too. Their success does not depend on the failures of others but on how good they have earned their own success. The principle is simple if you want to improve on anything, help those you are competing against to improve as well, then you have no choice but to improve yourself.

MYTH #4 THEY DO NOT EXIST

                This is the most damaging and hurtful thing of all the myths.  The idea that there are no winners or that everyone is a winner (which means there are no winners) has created a society of weak and dependent people who seek only to be cared for.  I believe that every teacher, sports team, and a parent who teaches children that everyone is a winner is stealing the very life from that child.  Every child has the potential to be great and to rob them of this gift is cruel and heartless.  Remember the words of the great coach, Vince Lombardi, " Winning is not a sometime thing; it's an all time thing. You don't win once in a while, you don't do things right once in a while, you do them right all the time. Winning is a habit. Unfortunately, so is losing."

                Think about how many Scouts have achieved such great things in life. Scouts have walked on the moon, build great businesses, and help world records in about every sport or competition imaginable. They have been teachers, Secretaries of State, Military generals and even the President of the United States. They did this not because they thought everyone had to win. They did it because they knew they had to win. They paid the price, did the work and never gave up. Let’s teach all our young people to do the same.

You matter!  You matter to the world and to yourself.  Remember to be your best, love God, have good manners, achieve the unknown and change your world.

Scouting Out of Uniform is a personal blog based on the lessons learned from Scouting that relate to personal development and success principles and is not an official site of The Boy Scouts of America. John Patrick Hickey does not represent or speak for the Scouting program; however, he does completely support and encourages Scouting for both young and old. John Patrick Hickey is an author, speaker, Personal Development Coach, and proud Scouter. To read more from John Patrick Hickey or to get his books, training and book him to speak to your church, business or group, visit our website at www.johnpatrickhickey.com.   © 2019 John Patrick Hickey

SOU 1942 Sore Like An Eagle

SOU 1940 Never Too Young

How to Achieve a Dream

During my time in Scouting, I have kept one thing centered in my mind, these young boys can grow to be great men.  I really believe the old thinking that you can be anything you want to be.  I recently heard a commentator say that studies show a growing number of adults today do not believe their children will have the same advantages as they had.  That may be true, however, there will always be those who rise to the top and change the world as it is.  Always has been; always will be.

                I also know that it is what we help our young people to believe that will shape their future, not what we give them or do for them.  Scouting teaching the young person to care for themselves and to be prepared for life. It is not a group that hides, protects and shelters young people. Our goal is to help them be all they can be and to learn to make the life they choose, and not to expect it to be handed to them.  We need to help young people to learn three main principles in becoming success-minded people.

“Some men dream of worthy accomplishments, while others stay awake and do them.”

– Unknown

1)  Learn all you can learn

                Adults, as well as children, have concluded that all education comes from school.  If they are going to learn, they must learn it in school and the more school somehow equals more education.  That is not how learning happens.  Our "education" should begin in early childhood and end at the grave.  As Albert Einstein said, "Intellectual growth should commence at birth and cease at death."  We learn from every experience we have, every person we meet, every book we read.

                When we teach people that all education comes from school, we limit them in their experience and stop their ability to learn.  I believe in education and support schools and higher education, however, they are only a part of learning - a small part.  The person who learns how to learn can achieve anything they want to in life. As actor and Eagle Scout, Mike Rowe said, “We must change how we define, a good education.”

2)  Do all you can do

                When learning is stopped or limited, so is a person's ability to grow and become what they dream to be.  If you are taught that your education stops when you are out of school, you will find your education very short indeed.  Sadly, many people believe this and settle in life for far less than they can achieve.  We must help young people to understand that they were born to be extraordinary and to do extraordinary things. Scouting offers an endless ability to learn new and wonderful things. The only limits to a Scouts learning are the ones they place on themselves.

                Excellence does not happen by accident.  It must be a habit that a person chooses to have in their life.  Aristotle said, " We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act, but a habit."  This habit comes from learning never to settle for the mediocre or just right.  One of the most damaging things we have taught our children is that there are no winners.  This forces everyone to the lowest point, not the highest.  There are winners and it is up to us to teach our children to be a winner.  To do that we must follow the advice of author Zig Ziglar who said, "You were born to win, but to be a winner, you must plan to win, prepare to win, and expect to win."

3)  Be all you can be

                It all leads back to the old teaching, you can be anything you want to be.  Tell this to our young, believe it of our young and help them see it in us as well.  Never think you are too old to set the example of success.  Children learn their habits from us, so let's set good habits for them to learn.  Be a person of good character who does not just talk about the Scout Law but who live the Scout Law.  Be a person who works hard and takes care of themselves rather than depending on the government or the kindness of others.  Be a person of faith and show the reality of Christ in your life.

                Our young people will be the leaders of tomorrow.  Not maybe our leaders WILL BE our leaders.  If we want a better tomorrow we need to give them a better today.  Help them be all they can be and teach them to care for others more than themselves.  It is a simple, but profound truth, to quote Zig Ziglar once more, "You can have anything in life you want, as long as you help other people to get what they want."

You matter!  You matter to the world and to yourself.  Remember to be your best, love God, have good manners, achieve the unknown and change your world.

Scouting Out of Uniform is a personal blog based on the lessons learned from Scouting that relate to personal development and success principles and is not an official site of The Boy Scouts of America. John Patrick Hickey does not represent or speak for the Scouting program; however, he does completely support and encourages Scouting for both young and old. John Patrick Hickey is an author, speaker, Personal Development Coach, and proud Scouter. To read more from John Patrick Hickey or to get his books, training and book him to speak to your church, business or group, visit our website at www.johnpatrickhickey.com.   © 2019 John Patrick Hickey