Do As I Do

“Respect is ultimately about service, and boys need to see it modeled, to a great extent, by men.”

– Gregory L. Juntz & Michael Gurian

From the book: Raising Boys by Design

Everyone knows the complaint of people who live lives of "Do as I say not as I do".  Ask anyone you meet and they will tell you that is wrong and people should not act that way.  However, it is still the behavior of many people, especially parents.  We want our children to grow up to be good and honorable people, we make sure they go to school, church and even groups like Scouts so they can learn how to behave.  The greatest influence on our young people is the one we think the least about - our example.

                Let's face it, it is easy to forget that what we say and do is always being watched and listened to.  You may think that others do not notice what you say and do, but many people do.  How often do you take notice when someone is rude or shows bad manners?  How about when others lie, cheat or steal?  Don't you notice every time someone is unkind or treats you or another person badly?  Of course you do; and others notice when you do it.

                Success-minded people should make their life an example to all.  I am not just talking about what we do in front of children, but what example we set for everyone.  Success-minded people must live lives of honor and truth.  Not only will it be an example to others but you feel a whole lot better about yourself as well.

                Setting the example is more than right behavior.  It is living a life that touches others for the good.  When people talk about someone who is loyal, trustworthy, kind or polite, your name should be the first on their lips.  It is a great feeling to be given that kind of respect, but that kind of respect must be earned. 

                Just telling your children, co-workers, friends, family or anyone, that they should behave in a kind and proper fashion is never enough.  Mark Twain had it right when he said, "Actions speak louder than words, but not nearly as often."  We have to show others what it means to be a person of integrity and solid character.  When you do, you impact the world for the better.

                You matter!  You matter to the world and to yourself.  Remember to be your best, love God, have good manners, achieve the unknown and change your world.

John Patrick Hickey is an author, speaker, Life Coach and proud Scouter. To read more from John Patrick Hickey or to get his books, training and book him to speak to your church, business or group, visit our website at http://www.growthcenter.net or www.johnpatrickhickey.com.   © 2014 John Patrick Hickey