We have all heard, and use the saying, "Talk is cheap."
Most people talk more than taking action. That is true. Mark Twain said,
"Action speaks louder than words but not nearly as often." This fact
should not cause our concern about our words to weaken. The greater truth is
that your words can destroy you faster than your actions. People may forget
what you do, but they do not forget what you say.
Two of
the principles in the Boy Scout Law is that a Scout is Kind and he is Clean. When
it comes to your words, these laws are of extreme importance. There may be many
things to look at when it comes to how we talk, but I would like to focus on
these two for now in hopes that they start you to thinking before you start
talking.
“Once a word leaves
your mouth, you cannot chase it back even with the swiftest horse.”
– Chinese Proverb
Kind Words
Kids can be ruthless when it
comes to the words they use. They call each other names and say hurtful things
without thinking. The saying, "Sticks and stones can break my bones, but
names will never hurt me," is a lie. The truth is that names stay with us
for life. Broken bones heal in time, broken spirits never do.
In teaching boys the Scout Law
to be kind, we help them to see that what they say matters. No one likes to be
called names or made fun of. Once a boy sees that their words can cause damage,
many will pay closer attention to what they say. Likewise, using kind and
encouraging words can bring healing, confidence,
and friendship.
As an adult, you would think that we know better. Sadly, adults can and
often are as cruel as children. They do it in a more underhanded way. They
gossip, spread rumors and lie about others. This shows a lack of integrity and
character in a person and causes more
harm to the one who speaks more than to the one who is talked about.
Clean Words
One of the struggles that Scout
leaders have is teaching young boys that are swearing and using harsh language that
it is wrong and harmful. Why is this so hard? It is because they hear it at
home and on TV as if it was just regular talk. The fact that fewer people are
repulsed by bad language does not mean it is now acceptable.
Adults, at home, in business, and social settings must be aware
that the use of foul language shows a lack of character and makes you look less
intelligent. The person who cannot figure out what words to use that are not
offensive is not the person you want in a place of authority and leadership.
Be a person who knows how to use
their words to encourage, show kindness, and inspire. The better your language
and use of words the better and more professional you will look and be. Let me
end as I started with the words of Mark Twain, "It is better to keep your
mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all
doubt."
You matter! You matter to the world and to yourself. Remember to be your
best, love God, have good manners, achieve the unknown, and change your world.
Scouting Out of Uniform is a personal
blog based on the lessons learned from Scouting that relate to personal
development and success principles and is not an official site of The Boy
Scouts of America. John Patrick Hickey does not represent or speak for the
Scouting program; however, he does completely support and encourages Scouting
for both young and old. John Patrick Hickey is an author, speaker, Personal
Development Coach, and proud Scouter. To
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