New Year 2020

SOU 1980 Intor to a New Year

Christmas 2019

SOU 1979 Dealing With Stress

Book Power

I have the great privilege of being the counselor for several different merit badges. One of the ones I love to work with Scouts on the most is reading. I know that it is one of the least involved ones they have. After all, most of it is reading. But that is the thing that is the greatest part. I love to introduce young people, any people really, to reading. There is no greater gift you can give someone.

Success-minded people are always looking for tools to add to their success toolkit. They go to seminars, take classes, listen to audio programs, network and spend time on social media. All this is good and can be extremely helpful, however, there is one resource that is more powerful and useful than all the others combined. That is the power of books and the exercise of reading on a daily bases.

                Any study of successful people will show you that they are readers. I am amazed that so many people say they do not read because they do not have the time in their day. Do you have the time to eat? Do you have the time to sleep? Do you have the time to clean up and get dressed? Reading is just as important to the successful person. It is necessary, not an option.

“If the crowns of the world were laid at my feet in exchange for my love of reading,

I would spurn them all.”

– Francois Fenelon

(1651-1715)

 French Clergyman

                Reading is often treated as if you can do it or not, it is really all up to you. Reading is seen as optional and a matter of personal opinion. This is where so many fail to learn and grow as they should and end up never achieving their dreams in life. Reading, developing a love for books, is not a matter of opinion, but a solid reality to success and life in general.

                In the reading merit badge lessons, a Scout must read different types of books. Biographers, fiction, non-fiction, history and the like. This helps them not just to learn about different things but to help them find the types of books they like. I have found that young people who believe they have a reading problem, it is only that they have not read a book they liked. Ones you open this door, they will never close it.

                I am very passionate about reading and for people to see its importance to their life. What saddens me is that so many people have all the excuses for not reading down, but fail to see the value in taking the time to better themselves. Science-fiction author, Ray Bradbury had it right when he said, "There are worse crimes than burning books. One of them is not reading them."

                Make reading a part of your daily routine. Even if you start with just 15 or 20 minutes a day. I say start because you will find once you develop the habit your reading time will increase. Find a book that is in your line of interest and that you can learn from. It can be new and hot off the presses or an old classic that has gathered dust on the shelf. Whatever you choose, take a bit of time each day and read what you can.

                To develop a love for books is the best habit any human can develop. You can go anywhere, do anything and be anyone you wish. There is a magic in books that is beyond our understanding. There is a joy in reading and knowing that you have the power to learn and grow. No other creature on the planet has this ability. Do not allow it to pass you by.

You matter! You matter to the world and to yourself. Remember to be your best, love God, have good manners, achieve the unknown and change your world.

Scouting Out of Uniform is a personal blog based on the lessons learned from Scouting that relate to personal development and success principles and is not an official site of The Boy Scouts of America. John Patrick Hickey does not represent or speak for the Scouting program; however, he does completely support and encourages Scouting for both young and old. John Patrick Hickey is an author, speaker, Personal Development Coach, and proud Scouter. To read more from John Patrick Hickey or to get his books, training and book him to speak to your church, business or group, visit our website at www.johnpatrickhickey.com.   © 2019 John Patrick Hickey

SOU 1978 Integrity

The Strength of the Gentle

What are the ingredients of a superhero? They are made up of things like kindness, courage, friendliness, helpfulness, and trustworthiness. Sound familiar? You got it, it is the same things that make us a Scout. The difference is that most superheroes are fictional, Scouts, on the other hand, are real.

There are times when it seems like the whole world is hard and unkind. The people you pass on the street frown and look like they will bite your head off if you so much as whisper a "Good Morning". The news is full of stories of all the mean and nasty things people do to each other. No one has a kind word about anything or anyone. Is there no hope left in the world?

                Now comes out superheroes. The Boy Scouts. The one who smiles at everyone with that nuclear smile that melts the hardest heart. This hero has the superpower to say and do the kindest things with the ease of the preverbal hot knife in butter. While the people around them are mumbling, they are humming a happy tune and ready to win the day for goodness.

“The is nothing stronger in the world than gentleness.”

– Han Suyin

(1917-2012)

Author

                Okay. I admit I have gone a bit extreme here. However, there are times in this sad world that the person who is positive, kind and happy seems like a long-awaited superhero. Here is the best part. Ready for this? Are you sitting down? You, my friend, are that hero! Yes, you.

                A positive mindset and a happy heart is nothing more than a choice we make every day. They are not gifts from on high or things we must study for and earn our "Heroes" degree. You just choose to be positive and to be kind to others. In fact, when you act kind and happy toward others it really builds on itself and you become stronger and stronger with each passing person. This is why Scouts are encouraged to do a good turn daily. It establishes a habit, one that changes them and changes those they come in contact with.

                The world needs as many heroes as it can get. It seems like things and going down the toilet but the truth is there are many, many people who are happy, kind and do wonderful things for humanity. Be that hero and make a difference in the lives of every person you come in contact with. As the 19th century English critic, William Hazlitt said, "A gentle word, a kind look, a good-natured smile can work wonders and accomplish miracles."  Be one who accomplishes miracles.

You matter! You matter to the world and to yourself. Remember to be your best, love God, have good manners, achieve the unknown and change your world.

Scouting Out of Uniform is a personal blog based on the lessons learned from Scouting that relate to personal development and success principles and is not an official site of The Boy Scouts of America. John Patrick Hickey does not represent or speak for the Scouting program; however, he does completely support and encourages Scouting for both young and old. John Patrick Hickey is an author, speaker, Personal Development Coach, and proud Scouter. To read more from John Patrick Hickey or to get his books, training and book him to speak to your church, business or group, visit our website at www.johnpatrickhickey.com.   © 2019 John Patrick Hickey

SOU 1977 Books of Gold

The Work Comes First

I have always thought that there should be a “Patience” Merit Badge in Scouting. Besides being a much-needed skill to learn, it is something that Scouts find they cannot get away from learning. They have to work through all their badges, step by step. They face things like learning to start a fire without matches or fire starters, putting up shelters from things they find in the woods, and cooking the food they caught themselves. Instant gratification is not part of the Scout’s world.

The problem and it is a problem, of instant gratification, is far more than people seeking out cheap, quick thrills. We live at a time when it is easy to get what you want right now. It takes no time at all to prepare a meal, does some work around your home, or gathers information. It is wonderful that we can create and develop such wonderful conveniences; however, fast and easy does not work with all things in life. When it comes to success, you still have to work for it.

                I believe this kind of thinking has lead many into believing three common myths. You have heard these before, maybe even believed them yourself. Each is not only untrue but can be highly destructive to the people who pursue them.

“I run on the road, long before I dance under the lights.”

– Muhammad Ali

(1942- 2016)

Fighter

Get Rich Quick

                Anyone over the age of 18, most likely has been approached by someone, in person or through media of some kind, and told they could become rich in their spare time. That is one of the most common lies that success-minded people have come to believe. Everyone wants to be rich. Everyone wants to be successful. Everyone wants to do it with the least amount of effort and work. Soon, however, everyone finds that they get neither rich nor quick.

                If you want to become successful and to accumulate wealth, you had best understand and accept this fact: If you are not willing to work hard, you will never achieve this goal. A quick study of history will show you that anyone who has achieved success and wealth has worked - and worked hard - to get what they wanted. Not in their spare time, because successful people do not have "spare time" as they work toward a goal. Not quickly, for they were willing to do what it takes for as long as it takes to achieve their dreams.

Work Smarter, Not Harder

                Actor, Mike Rowe, refers to this bit of advice as, "The worst advice in the world." And I agree. I do not oppose a good [I stress good] education. What I do oppose is the idea that all you need is a diploma and you are on your way to easy street. The reality is that the majority of people now graduating with a degree do not end up working in their field of study, and the majority of them are not working at all. Rowe also said, "We're lending money we don't have to kids who can't pay it back, educating them for jobs that no longer exist."

                What we all need to understand is that the only way to success is to work smarter AND harder.  Education is more than just attending classes. Success-minded people know that they must be learning all the time. Read books, take courses and be a constant student. While you are doing that, work your butt off and you will see just how successful you can become.

You Deserve It

                Nothing makes me crazier than this constant bombardment of people tell us that we deserve it. Deserve what? According to our media and advertising agencies, you deserve to be rich, healthy, strong, well-fed, have every convenience under the sun, and to have a better mate than you have. Here is the hard truth: Unless you are willing to work hard, do what it takes to develop yourself, and put in the time, you deserve nothing at all!

                I know that sounds hard, but at least it is the truth. Never be taken away by some snake oil salesman who tells you all that you deserve just because you live on this planet. There is no free lunch in life. Successful people know this, and that is what makes them successful. You deserve what you are willing to pay for in life, and by pay, I mean to work for, invest in and learn. You can have it all; you can't have it for free.

You matter! You matter to the world and to yourself. Remember to be your best, love God, have good manners, achieve the unknown, and change your world.

Scouting Out of Uniform is a personal blog based on the lessons learned from Scouting that relate to personal development and success principles and is not an official site of The Boy Scouts of America. John Patrick Hickey does not represent or speak for the Scouting program; however, he does completely support and encourages Scouting for both young and old. John Patrick Hickey is an author, speaker, Personal Development Coach, and proud Scouter. To read more from John Patrick Hickey or to get his books, training and book him to speak to your church, business, or group, visit our website at www.johnpatrickhickey.com.   © 2019 John Patrick Hickey

SOU 1976 Words of Power

Talk is Expensive

We have all heard, and use the saying, "Talk is cheap." Most people talk more than taking action. That is true. Mark Twain said, "Action speaks louder than words but not nearly as often." This fact should not cause our concern about our words to weaken. The greater truth is that your words can destroy you faster than your actions. People may forget what you do, but they do not forget what you say.

                Two of the principles in the Boy Scout Law is that a Scout is Kind and he is Clean. When it comes to your words, these laws are of extreme importance. There may be many things to look at when it comes to how we talk, but I would like to focus on these two for now in hopes that they start you to thinking before you start talking.

“Once a word leaves your mouth, you cannot chase it back even with the swiftest horse.”

– Chinese Proverb

Kind Words

                Kids can be ruthless when it comes to the words they use. They call each other names and say hurtful things without thinking. The saying, "Sticks and stones can break my bones, but names will never hurt me," is a lie. The truth is that names stay with us for life. Broken bones heal in time, broken spirits never do.

                In teaching boys the Scout Law to be kind, we help them to see that what they say matters. No one likes to be called names or made fun of. Once a boy sees that their words can cause damage, many will pay closer attention to what they say. Likewise, using kind and encouraging words can bring healing, confidence, and friendship.

                As an adult, you would think that we know better. Sadly, adults can and often are as cruel as children. They do it in a more underhanded way. They gossip, spread rumors and lie about others. This shows a lack of integrity and character in a person and causes more harm to the one who speaks more than to the one who is talked about.

Clean Words

                One of the struggles that Scout leaders have is teaching young boys that are swearing and using harsh language that it is wrong and harmful. Why is this so hard? It is because they hear it at home and on TV as if it was just regular talk. The fact that fewer people are repulsed by bad language does not mean it is now acceptable.

                Adults, at home, in business, and social settings must be aware that the use of foul language shows a lack of character and makes you look less intelligent. The person who cannot figure out what words to use that are not offensive is not the person you want in a place of authority and leadership.

                Be a person who knows how to use their words to encourage, show kindness, and inspire. The better your language and use of words the better and more professional you will look and be. Let me end as I started with the words of Mark Twain, "It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt."

You matter! You matter to the world and to yourself. Remember to be your best, love God, have good manners, achieve the unknown, and change your world.

Scouting Out of Uniform is a personal blog based on the lessons learned from Scouting that relate to personal development and success principles and is not an official site of The Boy Scouts of America. John Patrick Hickey does not represent or speak for the Scouting program; however, he does completely support and encourages Scouting for both young and old. John Patrick Hickey is an author, speaker, Personal Development Coach, and proud Scouter. To read more from John Patrick Hickey or to get his books, training and book him to speak to your church, business, or group, visit our website at www.johnpatrickhickey.com.   © 2019 John Patrick Hickey

SOU 1975 The Choice

Born for Greatness

Scouting gives a wonderful opportunity to see boys grow and discover who they are. From the youngest Tiger Cub (age 6) to Eagle Scouts, there is, in each one, a desire to be great. Scouting brings that out in boys. It is not an ego thing or lust for power. It is personal, deep inside each boy that tells them they can do something great. They know early on that they have the potential to do anything they want. Because of this knowledge, many went on to become great leaders, astronauts, and even presidents.

                Many of us told when we were young that we could be anything we wanted to be. It seems to be what we tell children. Then, around our high school years, we are told that we need to be practical, be realistic and stop walking around with our heads in the clouds. The same people who told us we could be anything now restrict our dreams to what money can afford, time permit and talents achieve. Sadly, many of us buy into this far quicker than when our hopes were to be a fireman, astronaut, or school teacher.

“God has placed within every boy a desire for greatness.”

– Gregory L. Juntz & Michael Gurian

Authors of Raising Boys by Design

                That ability to become anything you want has not been lost. It is still there, hidden deep inside but still alive. You know that now and then it pops its head up and reminds you of "what could have been." You can bring it into the sunlight if you choose. It is not too late. Oh, maybe you cannot become exactly what you hoped for, but the dream can be revived and take on a workable form. You only need to choose to connect with your greatness once more.

                What is it that you want to do? If you could do anything and know that you would not fail, what would it be? What do you need to do to make that happen? All these questions need to be answered. To answer them will take courage and the ability to make decisions. But for those who have passion, determination, and real guts, anything is possible.

                Author Zig Ziglar would always say that each one of us was "designed for accomplishment, engineered for success, and endowed with the seeds of greatness." I believe that is true. I believe that means you. The dreams you had as a child many times are the dreams you have as an adult, why? Because that is who you were created to be. So be that person and be great.

You matter! You matter to the world and to yourself. Remember to be your best, love God, have good manners, achieve the unknown, and change your world.

Scouting Out of Uniform is a personal blog based on the lessons learned from Scouting that relate to personal development and success principles and is not an official site of The Boy Scouts of America. John Patrick Hickey does not represent or speak for the Scouting program; however, he does completely support and encourages Scouting for both young and old. John Patrick Hickey is an author, speaker, Personal Development Coach, and proud Scouter. To read more from John Patrick Hickey or to get his books, training and book him to speak to your church, business, or group, visit our website at www.johnpatrickhickey.com.   © 2019 John Patrick Hickey

SOU 1974 The Optimist

Do the Tough Job First

One of the many important lessons that boys are taught in Scouting is to be self-sufficient. This is not just learning how to find food in the woods, cook it on a fire you made with a few sticks without poisoning or catching yourself on fire. To be self-sufficient is the ability to take care of yourself and not depend on others to do it for you. Seems easy enough right? The fact is a good many adult never learned the lesson.

                To this day, there is no better way to be self-sufficient than to have a good job, earn your keep and be in debt to no one. The good job part varies from person to person based on what your dreams are and what your skills are. For some, it is a career in business, law or medicine. For others, it may be farming, the skilled trades, or the arts. If it wants you to wish to do, do your best at and work hard it is a "good job".

“Do the hard jobs first.  The easy jobs will take care of themselves.”

– Dale Carnegie

(1888-1955)

Author / Speaker

                Success-minded people learn the secret to doing the best job is to be willing to work and do the difficult things first. That will always put you ahead. No matter what line of work you do, there will always be those who look for the easy way, the least amount of work. If you are the one who steps up and does the hard work first you will always be in the front of the pack. As Thomas A. Edison said, "There is no substitute for hard work."

                There is an important principle at work here. Self-sufficient people know that with hard work comes freedom and reward. People who complain about working too hard will always have to work too hard. They will never find the freedom of doing what they love and earning a living that allows them to live as they wish. Author, Zig Ziglar used to say. "Do more than you are being paid to do and eventually you will be paid for more than you do." 

                Never back away from hard work. In fact, run to it, embrace it and do it well. No one ever pays for mediocre. Success-minded people, like Scouts, do their best because they are the best. Not an ego thing, just reality. Hard work is always welcome, it is always rewarded and it will always be rare.

You matter! You matter to the world and to yourself. Remember to be your best, love God, have good manners, achieve the unknown and change your world.

Scouting Out of Uniform is a personal blog based on the lessons learned from Scouting that relate to personal development and success principles and is not an official site of The Boy Scouts of America. John Patrick Hickey does not represent or speak for the Scouting program; however, he does completely support and encourages Scouting for both young and old. John Patrick Hickey is an author, speaker, Personal Development Coach, and proud Scouter. To read more from John Patrick Hickey or to get his books, training and book him to speak to your church, business or group, visit our website at www.johnpatrickhickey.com.   © 2019 John Patrick Hickey

SOU 1973 Lessons Learned