Everyone knows the complaint of people who live lives of "Do as I say not as I do". Ask anyone you meet and they will tell you two things: 1) They know someone who does that very thing. 2) They believe it is wrong to think and act that way. However, they, or even us, maybe that person and we do not even realize that we are doing it.
Parents, often are guilty of this behavior. We want our children to grow up to be good and honorable people, we make sure they go to school, church and even groups like Scouts so they can learn how to behave. The greatest influence on our young people is the one we think the least about - our influence.
Let's face it, it is easy to forget that what we say and do is always being watched and listened to. You may think that others do not notice what you say and do, but that is not the case. How often do you take notice when someone is rude or shows bad manners? How about when others lie, cheat or steal? Don't you notice every time someone is unkind or treats you or another person badly? Of course, you do; and others notice when you do it as well.
“Respect is ultimately about service, and boys need to see it modeled, to a great extent, by men.”
– Gregory L. Juntz & Michael Gurian
From the book: Raising Boys by Design
Success-minded people should make their life an example to all. I am not just talking about what we do in front of children, but what example we set for everyone. Success-minded people must live lives of honor and truth. This is the bases for the Scout Oath and Law. It gives a foundation that not only guides the Scout but all who see them as well. This is why, when people would refuse to compromise their values or to behave badly, they were said to acting like a Boy Scout.
Setting the example is more than the right behavior. It is living a life that touches others for the good. When people talk about someone who is loyal, trustworthy, kind or polite, your name should be the first on their lips. It is a great feeling to be given that kind of respect, but that kind of respect must be earned.
Just telling your children, co-workers, friends, family or anyone, that they should behave in a kind and proper fashion is never enough. Mark Twain had it right when he said, "Actions speak louder than words, but not nearly as often." We must show others what it means to be a person of integrity and solid character. When you do, you impact the world for the better.
You matter! You matter to the world and to yourself. Remember to be your best, love God, have good manners, achieve the unknown and change your world.
Scouting Out of Uniform is a personal blog based on the lessons learned from Scouting that relate to personal development and success principles and is not an official site of The Boy Scouts of America. John Patrick Hickey does not represent or speak for the Scouting program; however, he does completely support and encourages Scouting for both young and old. John Patrick Hickey is an author, speaker, Personal Development Coach, and proud Scouter. To read more from John Patrick Hickey or to get his books, training and book him to speak to your church, business or group, visit our website at www.johnpatrickhickey.com. © 2019 John Patrick Hickey
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